Some Maryland couples who are getting a divorce might want to consider mediation instead of litigation. However, others might not even give mediation a try because they have misconceptions about how it works.
What is mediation?
Mediation involves a neutral third party who listens to both you and your spouse and attempts to help you reach a divorce agreement that suits both of you. One of the common misconceptions is that the mediator’s job is to create the divorce agreement in the same way that a judge does, but this is not the case. The mediator is a facilitator focused on conflict resolution. This also means that even in a high-conflict divorce, mediation can work. Just because you could not resolve the issues in your marriage does not mean you cannot resolve issues in your divorce.
Bringing in other professionals
Another common misconception about divorce mediation is that no one else can be involved except you, your spouse and the mediator. In fact, your attorney can continue working with you throughout the mediation process. In some cases, you might want to involve a counselor or therapist as well. The aim here is not to go back over the issues in your marriage but to try to reach an agreement regarding your divorce that both parties are satisfied with.
A less difficult divorce
One big advantage of using mediation over litigation is that it can take less time and be less costly and stressful. If you have children, a divorce that is resolved through mediation could be less difficult for them as well than one in which their parents are fighting in court. You may want to discuss the possibility of using mediation in your divorce with your attorney and whether it would be appropriate in your circumstances.